Amy Chua’s new book and Wall Street Journal article about the superiority of the stereotypical Chinese Tiger Mom has raised a firestorm of controversy on the differences between parenting styles. But beyond the controversy, does it make us think twice about our own style of parenting -- what works, what could use some improvement?

If you haven't read the article yet, check it out -- "Why Chinese Mothers are Superior."
 


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alumni parent
02/04/2011 12:13

I vote for a balanced style of parenting. Clear rules and expectations but allowing teens freedom to make decisions, choose activities and make some mistakes along the way. Don't we learn from the mistakes we make? We want to protect them forever but they have to learn to manage their own lives and time. I found a balanced approach to be exhausting at times, I cannot imagine going through the piano piece experience with either one of my children.

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moderato
02/04/2011 12:54

I've read tons of parenting articles over the past few weeks, and this controversy has stirred up a lot of ideas about parenting styles that have really made me examine my own tendencies -- am I too strict about this? Too lenient about that? It is exhausting, but one thing I'm pretty convinced about -- even tho consistency is key, we also have to constantly adapt, using sound judgment, common sense and sensitivity to the individual child. There's no definitive right or wrong, no manual. But keeping engaged is key.

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eggdawg
02/13/2011 14:46

Four things and a question. -- 1) it's like music. a virtuoso parent knows how to read a situation, how to decode the dynamics, and has the know-how to choose options WITH THEIR KID that might work. The amount of authority is adjustable; a parent in a good healthy relationship dictates little and co-navigates or map-shares a lot. It's the golden rule. -- 2) why isn't there more partnership on this blog between parents and teachers and students and administrators? why reinforce the silos and stovepiped behaviors that pull apart the BHS Community. -- 3) Why not reinforce relationships and build on assets and strengths and patterns of decision-making that work? -- 4) The website is good. It could be great if we all stop treating students like employees who need to be managed. Back in the day, there were intergenerational partnerships with command and control and interdependent decision-making. Now, not so much. -- 4) Are we all too busy? If so, is that okay?

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